Please Don’t Say
You’re Sorry

You’ve given your all to your relationship, building a life, a family, and possibly a business with your partner. So naturally, it feels wholly overwhelming and emotionally exhausting when you wake up (or they wake up) one day and realize that where it once took two to say, “I do,” it now takes one to say, “I don’t”. This is your reminder the dissolution of your marriage doesn’t have to be the worst thing that’s ever happened to you.

In Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry, Nicole Sodoma shares empowering advice to help you sustain a real and happy marriage, recognize when that’s just not possible, and know what to expect and do from there. What’s more, she offers all of this with a generous dose of humor to remind you that you can and will laugh again.

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Please Don’t Say
You’re Sorry

You’ve given your all to your relationship, building a life, a family, and possibly a business with your partner. So naturally, it feels wholly overwhelming and emotionally exhausting when you wake up (or they wake up) one day and realize that where it once took two to say, “I do,” it now takes one to say, “I don’t”. This is your reminder the dissolution of your marriage doesn’t have to be the worst thing that’s ever happened to you.

In Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry, Nicole Sodoma shares empowering advice to help you sustain a real and happy marriage, recognize when that’s just not possible, and know what to expect and do from there. What’s more, she offers all of this with a generous dose of humor to remind you that you can and will laugh again.

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A Peek Inside PDSYS

Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry is available in hardback, e-book, and audiobook editions. In each version you will find:

Quotes, stories, and inspirational advice for those navigating marriage, separation and divorce.
Questions at the end of each chapter to help readers unpack what they’ve learned so far.
‘Legally Speaking’ a dictionary of commonly used legal terms related to separation and divorce.

Whether you are looking for advice on how to better your marriage, are considering separation, or you find yourself knee-deep in divorce, this book has something for you. Today is the first day of the rest of your life and things are looking up, because now you’ve got a badass, no-holds-barred, divorce attorney by your side.

Please Don't Say You're Sorry, a book by Nicole Sodoma and Joscelyn Duffy

A Peek Inside PDSYS

Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry is available in hardback, e-book, and audiobook editions. In each version you will find:

Quotes, stories, and inspirational advice for those navigating marriage, separation and divorce.
Questions at the end of each chapter to help readers unpack what they’ve learned so far.
‘Legally Speaking’ a dictionary of commonly used legal terms related to separation and divorce.

Whether you are looking for advice on how to better your marriage, are considering separation, or you find yourself knee-deep in divorce, this book has something for you. Today is the first day of the rest of your life and things are looking up, because now you’ve got a badass, no-holds-barred, divorce attorney by your side.

What Readers Are Saying About
Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry

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“It’s about time we pull back the dark, velvet curtain that is the delicacy of divorce. Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry is a conversational companion, full of heart and empathy, plus facts from an expert to help you feel a little less alone in this abyss. Page after page you feel that Nicole Sodoma is able to meet you where you are at and helps reframe the relationship to yourself as you un-relationship to another. I’m definitely NOT sorry I read this book. And you won’t be either.”

Abigail Spencer

Actress, Writer and Producer

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“In Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry, Nicole Sodoma shows us that marital struggles, separation and divorce do not need to be taboo. Quite the opposite in fact. Sodoma exhibits the experience, humanity and legal insights that show us how the most tumultuous times can empower great personal choice. Realistic and raw, funny and frank, this book is must-read for anyone trying to find a way to stay in or move past their marriage.”

Sonia Choquette

New York Times best selling author and global teacher

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“A thoughtful guide to getting through divorce with the least amount of stress and emotional pain.”

Stacy D. Phillips, ESQ

Partner BLANKROME and Author of, Divorce: It’s All About Control; How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal Wars

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“Nicole offers a refreshing mix of hope, straight talk, and battle-tested experience. Her compassion for the reader comes through with heart and valuable insights.”

Chris Jarvis

Bestselling financial author, creator of the Go Wild Assessment, and Entrepreneur Coach

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“I wish I’d had this uniquely candid relationship and divorce companion from Nicole Sodoma years ago, it would have made my own divorce journey a lot less lonely. It would have made the journey a lot less lonely. She’s lived divorce in her own story and she’s been a divorce doula for so many. I never wanted to end up in court. I tried everything else, court was my last resort. I wish when my friend had advised me to go to an attorney she’d also been able to slip me this book. It’s about time we pull back the dark, velvet curtain that is the delicacy of divorce. o With Nicole’s over 20 years of legal experience and personal experience, how could you not want to get a glass of wine with this gal and simply have her walk alongside you as you navigate your divorce journey? Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry is a conversational companion, full of heart and empathy plus facts from an expert to help you feel a little less alone in this abyss. Page after page you feel that she is able to meet you where you are at and helps reframe the relationship to yourself as you un-relationship to another. I’m hopeful it’s just the beginning of many more conversations around this from a sisterhood perspective. Nicole has a profound way of making you feel a little more okay, reminding you it’s going to be okay, and ultimately empowering you to make the hard decisions while embracing the possibility of expansion during a period of your life that may feel like contraction. I’m definitely NOT sorry I read this book – and you won’t be either.”

Abigail Spencer

Actress, Writer and Producer

Get your copy
today!

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What Readers Are Saying About
Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry

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“It’s about time we pull back the dark, velvet curtain that is the delicacy of divorce. Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry is a conversational companion, full of heart and empathy, plus facts from an expert to help you feel a little less alone in this abyss. Page after page you feel that Nicole Sodoma is able to meet you where you are at and helps reframe the relationship to yourself as you un-relationship to another. I’m definitely NOT sorry I read this book. And you won’t be either.”

Abigail Spencer

Actress, Writer and Producer

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“In Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry, Nicole Sodoma shows us that marital struggles, separation and divorce do not need to be taboo. Quite the opposite in fact. Sodoma exhibits the experience, humanity and legal insights that show us how the most tumultuous times can empower great personal choice. Realistic and raw, funny and frank, this book is must-read for anyone trying to find a way to stay in or move past their marriage.”

Sonia Choquette

New York Times best selling author and global teacher

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“A thoughtful guide to getting through divorce with the least amount of stress and emotional pain.”

Stacy D. Phillips, ESQ

Partner BLANKROME and Author of, Divorce: It’s All About Control; How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal Wars

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“Nicole offers a refreshing mix of hope, straight talk, and battle-tested experience. Her compassion for the reader comes through with heart and valuable insights.”

Chris Jarvis

Bestselling financial author, creator of the Go Wild Assessment, and Entrepreneur Coach

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“I wish I’d had this uniquely candid relationship and divorce companion from Nicole Sodoma years ago, it would have made my own divorce journey a lot less lonely. It would have made the journey a lot less lonely. She’s lived divorce in her own story and she’s been a divorce doula for so many. I never wanted to end up in court. I tried everything else, court was my last resort. I wish when my friend had advised me to go to an attorney she’d also been able to slip me this book. It’s about time we pull back the dark, velvet curtain that is the delicacy of divorce. o With Nicole’s over 20 years of legal experience and personal experience, how could you not want to get a glass of wine with this gal and simply have her walk alongside you as you navigate your divorce journey? Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry is a conversational companion, full of heart and empathy plus facts from an expert to help you feel a little less alone in this abyss. Page after page you feel that she is able to meet you where you are at and helps reframe the relationship to yourself as you un-relationship to another. I’m hopeful it’s just the beginning of many more conversations around this from a sisterhood perspective. Nicole has a profound way of making you feel a little more okay, reminding you it’s going to be okay, and ultimately empowering you to make the hard decisions while embracing the possibility of expansion during a period of your life that may feel like contraction. I’m definitely NOT sorry I read this book – and you won’t be either.”

Abigail Spencer

Actress, Writer and Producer

Get your copy
today!

BUY THE BOOK

About the Author

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If you are navigating separation and divorce, marriage-loving divorce attorney, Nicole Sodoma, knows exactly what you’re going through – and not just because she represents people in the same position, but because she has been there herself. When she separated from her husband of thirteen years, everyone she knew offered their sympathies. She quickly began to question why people say “congratulations” when we marry and “I’m sorry” when we divorce. After all, sorry is a word used to express empathy for someone’s misfortune; it hardly seemed fitting for a circumstance where one is choosing to do what is in the best interest of their happiness (and very likely that of their partner and children too).

Equally hopeful and insightful, this book draws from Sodoma’s personal experience growing up in a blended family with divorced parents, her own marital breakup, and the more than two decades she has spent leading others through the separation process as a family law attorney. From hard truths about court proceedings, seeking sole custody, and the unintended consequences of any split, to deeply relatable tales from divorce cases past, her empathy and real talk make it easy to feel understood and far less alone in those moments when you are making seemingly impossible decisions.

Meet Nicole

About the Author

If you are navigating separation and divorce, marriage-loving divorce attorney, Nicole Sodoma, knows exactly what you’re going through – and not just because she represents people in the same position, but because she has been there herself. When she separated from her husband of thirteen years, everyone she knew offered their sympathies. She quickly began to question why people say “congratulations” when we marry and “I’m sorry” when we divorce. After all, sorry is a word used to express empathy for someone’s misfortune; it hardly seemed fitting for a circumstance where one is choosing to do what is in the best interest of their happiness (and very likely that of their partner and children too).

Equally hopeful and insightful, this book draws from Sodoma’s personal experience growing up in a blended family with divorced parents, her own marital breakup, and the more than two decades she has spent leading others through the separation process as a family law attorney. From hard truths about court proceedings, seeking sole custody, and the unintended consequences of any split, to deeply relatable tales from divorce cases past, her empathy and real talk make it easy to feel understood and far less alone in those moments when you are making seemingly impossible decisions.

Meet Nicole